Emotional detachment makes people cruel. It’s easy to turn people into caricatures when you don’t really know or care about them….
Take Britney Spears. She’s been lampooned by the tabloids, chased down by the paparazzi, and had fingers wagged at her by every so-called child care expert who could find their way in front of a television camera. To the media, it’s a game — one that earns them subscribers, ratings, and money.
But Spears is a real person. And after she gave an honest, emotional interview stating her case to Matt Lauer, viewers voted 80-20 in her support — and against the media — in an MSNBC poll.
Generating empathy is the reason I recommend face-to-face communication first to my clients. Before conference calls, before e-mail, before press releases, before internal memos, before Skype, before blogging, before VNRs — if face-to-face is possible, it’s nearly always the best option.
Here’s an example from the world of internal communication:
When a company is announcing a layoff and asks me to develop a plan to communicate it, the first question I always ask is, “Will the CEO do it in person?”
If the company is large with multiple locations, I want the CEO to make the announcement at headquarters and the top officials in the field to break the news at those offices simultaneously. I want those officials to stand up and explain the reasons for the layoff, and to answer every last question from the people in the room. I want those officials to show that they care, and I want the people in the audience to see that there is someone at the front of the room willing to stand there and take the heat.
Memos, press releases and e-mails are good for providing supporting information — but used alone, they can’t bridge the gap between a corporation’s execs and its rank-and-file. If a company only communicates through press releases, employees will start to view its executives as the public views celebrities — with distance, detachment and, ultimately, ridicule.
The same is true for your communications with investors, the media and other audiences. So don’t be lazy; manage by talking around.

Compared to what you usually write about Scott, this is very cutting-edge stuff. I am very taken with the depth! Who knew you had this kind of depth?
One critical comment: next time you write a 350-word feature, you might want to also provide a summary. Some readers won’t have the time or inclination to drill down like this article surely demands.
- Amanda Chapel
Face to face communication build a positive human relationship but it practically not possible even through confrence call by going online to build that real human relationship in real time. You need real face to reciprocate with a sort of empathy.
Thanks, Scott. Regardless of whether you’re communicating with customers or employees, the key is to communicate with integrity. Integrity leads to trust, and trust is the foundation for any great relationship.
Here’s a great post that helps bring the point home:
http://www.acxiom-direct.com/acxiom_direct/2006/06/some_keys_to_gr.html
Well, you probably already know how I feel about this…
http://bicyclemarketingwatch.blogspot.com/2006/03/olde-school-marketing.html
http://bicyclemarketingwatch.blogspot.com/2006/04/olde-school-marketing-part-2.html
I am almost sad to admit that I agree with you Scott. Almost…
Face-to-face is my preferred method, even though blogging has been very, very successful for me. Given the choice, I would much prefer to talk with my customers in person, shake their hands, look them in the eye and even apologize if necessary. Give me a few minutes with a customer in my booth at the tradeshow and I am confident I can get them to understand what I am selling and give it consideration. I’m a crappy salesperson too- it’s all about the genuineness of relationship building to me.
Blogging been berry berry good to you, Tim…
face to face communication creat maximum understanding between communicating parties and ideas.